“Biology is the least of what makes people a family”
What’s my blog all about?
My blog started in 2015 when I went on adoption leave (like maternity leave but waaaay cooler) from my normal job to look after our gorgeous little boy Joshy. I wanted a way to talk about the extra bits I couldn’t fit on my YouTube channel or that felt too raw to talk about on video just yet. To share photo’s of the special little moments in our life, show that adoption can be mainstream (and not something we should all use super quiet voices for) and recently documenting our next trip into IVF or adoption as we try for a brother or sister for Joshy.
Gradually my editing business, YouTube channel and blog grew to enable me to quit my my old job, enjoy being with my little boy at home longer and winging it until he was 3 years old. I am now back at work full time as a video editor, juggling life as we all do.
This a diary for me, where I offload emotional ramblings, share our videos and try to also be helpful to other parents or potential parents as I go along. You’ll find chatter on parenting, lifestyle, adoption and fertility, interiors and healthy eating (a passion of mine, as is just plain eating!). We currently live in Suffolk though we move around for my husbands job every few years. You will very rarely see ads here. I’m just not really into all that so turn down 99% off the requests that land in my inbox. Diet teas and sweetie brands can go swing on someone else’s blog I’m afraid. If I do work with a brand, it is always incredibly clearly marked as one.
Who makes up our family?
“My entire life can be described in one sentence. It didn’t go as planned and that’s ok”
Yep that’s me. The writer of this blog. I almost always have a laptop or video camera in one hand and a toddler toy in the other. I am passionate about eating healthy. For food to be colourful, deliciously nutritious and natural. Before I became a mum I worked with family’s in need of help in social care, which taught me the importance of people sharing experiences and growing their personal community and I strongly believe the “village” ethos is what’s needed back in life.
I am in love with photos that show the mood in a documentary style where no ones been asked to “say cheese”. I love thunder and lightning and facing fears.
I found out I had infertility when I was 15 which, though at times has been one of the hardest journeys I could ever imagine, I wouldn’t change it for the world now because it led me to Joshy. A boy who was always meant to be my son.
I believe in gentle parenting but I don’t always get it right. I am always trying to balance being a working mum with being a present mum (often fail) and I try to focus on the little moments as a family. I love challenges like the occasional digital detox, to keep us on the right track.
Steve is my husband of 6 years, though we have been together for 2 more. Having met online (yeah I know!), I am lucky to be able to say I have found my soul mate. My cider drinking, mountain biking, Netflix watching Somerset friendly giant. He often works away from home. Though we always miss each other incredibly, we’ve found our ways of coping and feel it’s made us stronger as a result. He is a very involved dad, always ready to dish out hugs, let Joshy jump on his back and crawl around on the floor with cars.
“How wonderful life is now your in the world”
Josh came home in 2014, a chatterbox from the start. He has never been still, even constantly kicking his little legs as a tiny baby. We were very lucky to be able to adopt him as a littlely so we have experienced most of his milestones and precious moments with him. Since the day he came home he has liked us to sing “Your Song” by Elton John (but the Ellie version) every night.
He is an affectionate little boy, with more energy than a rocket. He likes to try and make friends wherever he goes and his favourite place is (what a surprise) softplay where he will walk up to anyone and try to make them laugh.
His favourite toy is a stuffed dog called Woofalot or Woofy for short and he can’t get enough of cars, water and holding little plastic people. His sense of humour formed very young and he always has a cheeky grin on his face.
If you’d like to find out more, have a mooch around my blog, I try to add all our videos here too.